Roles affect our behavior: the nature of roles is a kind of behavior expectation generated by people in the relationship, and it is an implicit contract reached by the people in the relationship.

The contradiction between “requirement” and “expectation”: When someone tells us something, he has a role expectation of us. This role expectation provides behavioral clues that allow us to respond unconsciously and make behaviors that meet the expectations of others.

If we always fix ourselves in a certain role and regard the words and deeds stipulated by this role as our own personality, over time, we will forget that we have other possibilities, and it is difficult for our ego to have further possibilities. Change and development. On the contrary, if we can try many different roles and discover more aspects of ourselves, we can develop better.

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Reflective statement:

The implicit contract mentioned by the author, as a student, it is difficult for me to get rid of the identity of a student, but once I enter the society, sudden changes will make people uncomfortable. For example, I am now facing graduation and looking for a job, and there has been no role change before. Trying, it will be very stressful. How can we achieve a role change? My current thinking is, for example, the transformation of students and teachers, the transformation of parents and children. intervention.

“This kind of role expectation provides behavioral clues that make us respond unconsciously and make behaviors that meet the expectations of others.” The author’s sentence gave me some inspiration about improving the personality of Chinese high school students and making them imagine that they have graduated. , What kind of clothes will you wear to express your personality when you are an adult in college?